The magic of the cervix
The cervix is a highly developed pleasure organ which is the gateway to great cosmic love and pleasure. But the cervix is easily overlooked and ignored. Because of gynecology and medicine, the cervix is traumatized for many - it is cut, frozen, scraped, ignored, and IUDs forced through it. If you are penetrated very hard and before you are ready, or without your heart involved, the cervix can also close down, become numb, hard and painful to the touch.
The cervix is at the very top of the vagina and is part of our reproductive system, but its function goes far beyond simply creating a passageway for sperm. It is also an important place for sexual pleasure and can give us a deeper connection to our inner universe.
The cervix and the heart
In Chinese Taoism, the cervix is connected to the heart, so when you feel closed over the heart, you will most likely also feel hard and closed in your cervix. On the other hand, when you feel love during sex, the cervix will soften and open when you are fully aroused. This does not mean that you have to be madly in love to open your cervix, but rather that you have to have a sure yes in your heart and in your mind.
The cervix and the vagus nerve
The cervix is connected to the vagus nerve, which is a very emotional strong nerve. A well-functioning vagus nerve is important for feeling sexual pleasure. It is our true gut feeling and checks our surroundings for danger. If it is lurking danger, it will stop the blood from seeping down to the emotional areas. It cannot therefore be said enough that it is necessary to say a complete YES(!) before sex, because otherwise the vagus nerve is not activated.
If you have experienced trauma, it can lead to a chronically tense vagus nerve, and it can take time to open, calm and activate the vagus nerve again. You can e.g. heal a tense vagus nerve by stimulating the cervix regularly!
Healing from trauma, stress and anxiety
In order to get in touch with the great pleasure that is in the cervix, you need to first go through a period of healing and release of old emotions and traumas. You need to be able to face and release all the old wounds and tensions that have just piled up like a shield around your cervix (and your heart).
If you experience numbness or pain in the vagina and on the cervix, know that this is not your natural state. Numbness and pain are unfortunately very normal for many women because most of our trauma, stress and unresolved emotions are stored around and in the cervix. But remember that numbness and pain are not your natural sexual state.
It is possible for you to feel great pleasure and orgasms again. It just takes time, practice, devotion, discipline, patience, compassion and healing.
Here are two ways you can help yourself feel pleasure on your cervix:
1) Using your fingers or a dildo to massage your cervix
You can use your fingers or a dildo to slowly slide into your vagina and feel for where your cervix is. If you have had your cervix removed, you can work with the energy in the area, because it never goes away!
It might be hard to find at first, so use your fingers. You may need to squat or sit on a toilet to really get deep, but if you can't get all the way in, that's okay too. You don't really need to touch your cervix completely. With deep penetration with your fingers, you already begin to activate the nerve pathways that allow your cervix to feel pleasure. But it may be easier to use a dildo to properly relax while exploring your cervix. Here the Calypso Cervix Wand or a longer crystal dildo is really good.
Once you've found your cervix, you can start by massaging in circles or gently touching her bumping the tip of the neck. At the same time, you can touch your clitoris, your breasts or in the way you usually have sex with yourself. Here you train yourself to have blended orgasms, i.e. two orgasms at the same time, e.g. both on the clitoris and on the cervix.
In your massage of the cervix, also try to refrain from touching your clitoris and be present only with your cervix alone. It is good to stimulate your cervix regularly, because in this way you train yourself and your nervous system to feel pleasure. When you are with a partner at some point, it is therefore much easier for you to feel your partner's penis inside you. In this way, you have the opportunity to have vaginal and cervical orgasms.
2) Using a jade egg
You can use a jade egg or another yoni egg to stimulate and awaken your cervix. When you suck your egg up to the deepest section of your vagina, you stimulate your cervix and the reflex zone associated with the heart. You can squeeze around the egg at the cervix and on an exhalation you let go and breathe out with the heart sound "hah", which helps you to open up the cervix and the heart. The jade egg will help you to open your cervix up to amazing cervical orgasms.
By having a regular jade egg practice, you will be able to let go of tension, trauma and unresolved emotions that are keeping you from feeling great pleasure on your cervix right now. If you don't know about the specific jade egg exercises, you can also do it by having your jade egg inserted deep inside the cervix while enjoying yourself sexually, e.g. while touching the clitoris and your breasts or otherwise having sex with yourself. The jade egg will lie inside your cervix and stimulate this channel for cosmic pleasure.
Over time, you will activate and open your cervix more and more. At first you will be able to feel this openness as a tingling and throbbing and over time your cervix will begin to pulsate more and more with pleasure. Your body will overflow with oxytocin (the love hormone). You will feel a wave of electric, ecstatic, cosmic pleasure and heightened love flooding your brain, your heart, your body and your entire being. It's a cervical orgasm, and it can be life-changing and feel like opening up to other dimensions.
The cervix is the part of the woman's body that can create a pulsating sensation deep inside when you are sexually aroused. It is she who can give a feeling of great sexual pleasure and these great cosmic whole-body orgasms - which especially happen when you are with a person you feel great love for.
Unfortunately, not all women are allowed to feel the amazing heart-opening and expanding pleasure that the cervix can provide, and many are not even aware of its potential. But it is an opportunity for all persons with a cervix to bring it back to life through the conscious practice of massage, love and breath. You can also still work with her energy even if you have had your cervix removed!
Important! Before going deeper…
It may be that you don't feel much in your pussy right now.
It could be that you are so numb and disconnected from your pussy that you unconsciously go around tensing up outside and inside your vagina. This is due to stress, trauma and unresolved emotions.
If you are holding tension and traumatic feelings in your vagina, slowly proceed to insert a finger and dildo into your vagina and into your cervix. It can create greater tension and, in the worst case, re-traumatize yourself if you proceed too quickly. Before you start going deeper into your vagina, start by softening your outer body: your throat, your heart, your belly and your vulva.
First you can warm yourself up with a breast massage and/or belly massage. When massaging yourself keep taking some deep breaths in and out through an open, relaxed mouth. In order to open up your cervix, you must have a relaxed jaw because it is directly connected to the vagina.
When you are ready, you can use some coconut oil to make long strokes over your vulva and vaginal opening. Start here by massaging and softening the inner thighs, pubic bone, clitoris, labia, perineum and anus. Only then can you ask your pussy if she is ready for deeper penetration with a finger, dildo or jade egg. If it's a no, respect that no and instead contact and soften your cervix using your breathing and by sending good energy and your awareness down to your cervix.
Thank you for reading, dear goddess.
I am sending all good healing orgasmic energy your way!
/ Helle